Marriage’s Larger Purpose: Glorifying God

It’s Day 17 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study. 

Day 17 
L- log the verse – “Therefore, God elevated him to the place of highest honor and gave him the name above all other names,”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:9‬ ‭NLT‬‬

O – observations – Jesus humbled himself in obedience to the Father, and therefore, God exalted Him. 

V – Verse’s implications for marriage- Are we following Jesus in humility in our marriage? 
This is so hard, I can attest to it this week. I dropped my phone into the bathtub, and it started a wave of stress. (Who can live without a phone in 2017?) Apparently, it’s possible, because I just did, for four days. Yes, I survived. 
Survived, yes. Passed God’s test of humility and acting like Jesus in the process; fail. Sisters, I mean I failed with flying colors. I could not take it when my husband very gently said something about being more careful next time!
So what is our next step in the process when we mess up and don’t act like Jesus? 
We praise Him for dying for us and giving us another chance. We rise up off our knees in repentance and ask Him and our husband to forgive us, and we walk forward. 
>>>A thousand little choices of humility add up to a marriage you can be proud of.>>> 

Giving credit to Jesus for every humble choice. >>>

Taking ownership of every poor decision or emotional reaction and seeing the beauty of his blood bought forgiveness pouring through your marriage like a rushing river. >>> 

E – Ending prayer – Lord, please bless the marriages represented reading these words. Be glorified and lifted high above any other name. May your name be known through our marriages. When people hear our last name, representing us as a couple, may they quickly associate us with the name of your Son, Jesus. May our marriages be known in our sphere of influence as a couple who has built a life on your Word. Be lifted high in and through our marriages, in Jesus’ name, Amen.


A Selfless Servant

It’s day 15 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge!

A Selfless Servant

L – Log the verse: “but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.” Philippians 2:7

O- Observations: Jesus humbled himself, died to himself, to serve humanity. He was willing to do what his Master asked them to do, as a slave, without expecting payment in return. Jesus became human. He knows how it feels to experience all the things we face.

V- Verse’s implications for marriage: Set yourself aside (empty yourself) in marriage. Don’t cram and stuff things down in your heart, suppressing your feelings. (This will just cause an explosion of emotions at some point). Instead, bring your needs to the throne of God. Ask him to make you more selfless and giving towards your husband. Then don’t make yourself a “servant” to your husband, but rather a servant to the Lord, the Master you are truly serving by loving your husband well.

E- End in prayer: Sefless Jesus, thank you for emptying yourself to give us a fullness of life that includes greater oneness in marriage. Thank you for becoming human. You can sympathize with how hard it is to die to self. Please comfort and sustain us on this journey to a more Christ-centered marriage. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Here are the verses for this week:

Monday- Philippians 2:7
Tuesday- Philippians 2:8
Wednesday- Philippians 2:9
Thursday – Philippians 2:10
Friday- Philippians 2:11

1) Comment below – an area of your marriage you are asking God to help you be more selfless and more of a servant in.
2) Pray for one other sister who has commented and then like and comment an encouragement to them. 🙂

Growing in humility in Marriage 

It’s Day 11 of The 40 Day Marriage Challenge! 

Grow in Humility 

L- Log the verse: “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:3‬ ‭NLT‬‬
O- observations: 

1)Don’t be selfish 

2)Let your goal be to please God, not man 

3)Be humble – look for things in your husband you admire and respect. See things in yourself you need Jesus’ help with. Not the other way around. 
V- Verse’s implications for marriage: 

Recently I read a Christian an article on successful marriage that suggested you draw a circle around yourself and change the person inside of it. That is Christlike. That is what this verse is challenging us to do. To be more selfless by meditating on Christ’s selfless love for us. To desire to please God and not put our husband in a position to fill needs only our Heavenly Father can fill. To evaluate ourselves honestly before the throne of our Holy God- and to see the admirable things in our man so we deeply respect him in our hearts. 
E- End in prayer- Holy Father, thank you for not being selfish- and giving us your only Son. Please purify our love for our husbands through the blood of your precious Son. Help us keep looking to the cross for approval so we don’t get caught in the trap of impressing anyone. Give us eyes to see our husband’s good qualities at all times so we think of them highly from our hearts. May the enemy have no victory in us loosing respect for them. They are your dearly loved sons and we thank you for providing us with a partner for life. Bless the marriages represented reading these words. 

In Jesus’ name, Amen. 

How to be a DYNAMITE couple

It’s day 10 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study. 

Today’s verse gives us a powerful plan to be a dynamite couple for God’s kingdom. 

L- Log the verse- 

“Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:2‬ ‭NLT‬‬
O – Observations- 

1) Agree wholeheartedly with each other 

2) Love one another

3) Work together 

4) Have 1 mind and 1 purpose 
V- Verse’s implications for marriage – 

What are we having trouble agreeing on? Pray and ask God to help you settle it. Love grows deeper and is unhindered when it doesn’t have its own agenda. Be on the same track; with the same goals. (Think best friends on the same team). With God’s Spirit working through your oneness you are dynamite for God’s kingdom- unstoppable. 
E- End in prayer- Lord, I want ___________ & I to be a dynamite couple for you, to be ONE truly in all areas, like we were created to be in the garden. Thank you for (husband’s name) _____________. Thank you for marriage. Please help us agree, love, and work together with one mind and purpose: to grow your kingdom. I see you partnering us in these endeavors:____________ (list – starting with parenting and add all other assignments the Lord has you on currently). Please continue to grow our oneness and Spirit, makes us dynamite. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Growing in Christlikness in our marriages 

It’s Day 9 in the 40 Day Marriage Challenge at Refocused! 

Questions to ponder as we desire to grow more like Christ in our marriages… 

L- log the verse: “Is there any encouragement from belonging to Christ? Any comfort from his love? Any fellowship together in the Spirit? Are your hearts tender and compassionate?”

‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬

O- observations: Paul poses questions to the people in Philippi before he goes deeper into challenging them to have a more Christlike attitude. He wasn’t focused merely on marriage, but the church. However, I have seen so much transformation personally through meditating on this passage towards my marriage. Grow in Christlikess at home first. Who you are at home is who you really are. 

V- verse pertains to marriage: We (you and your husband) belong to Jesus. Both of you are safe in His mighty hand. No one can take you away from him. The Holy Spirit is our Comforter. He will comfort us and counsel us in our relationship. Check your heart – is my heart tender and compassionate towards my husband? 
E: end in prayer: Holy Father, Please encourage every woman – that we belong to you. We are yours, bought with your blood, Jesus, not our own. Please comfort us with your love through your Holy Spirit. Hold us and heal us where our hearts hurt or have lingering pain. As you heal us, continually through your love, please soften our hearts so we can be tender towards our husbands and show them true compassion. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

God’s Love is Enough 

It’s day 6 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study. 

L- log the verse: “In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”  ‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:10‬ ‭ESV‬‬

O- observations: God’s love is enough. Wednesday night I sat beside a missionary friend who just returned from 5 years living abroad as part of a mission to translate the bible into all languages. When we asked them how they were doing adjusting to life back in the states, this was their testimony: “God is enough.” His love is so overwhelming and encompassing that when things in your life and relationships are lacking, you realize his love is the only steady you couldn’t live without. 

V- Verse’s implications for marriage- even when things are off or bad in your marriage, God’s love is enough. When you are in valleys in your relationship, you will find Jesus there if you seek Him. His love sustains us in times where we don’t understand and have trouble loving our spouse sacrificially. Seeing all things in marriage with Jesus on the cross in the backdrop will remind us that we press on to bring God glory just as Jesus did, because He loved us. 

E- Sacrificing Savior, You are enough. Your love is what we desire. When things are good or great in our marriages, we give you glory. When times are tough, help us see you on the cross in the forefront of our minds, offering forgiveness and love for us and our spouse. In that one moment in history, we see love clearer than ever. Thank you, Jesus, 

A Love less about me

It’s day 4 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge at Refocused! Today: 

What in my marriage is about “Me?”

L- Log the verse: “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭ESV‬‬
O- Observations: I used a concordance ( to dig deeper into the meaning of the words in their original language (Greek). It’s amazing how you can ALWAYS go further into God’s Word, even when verses seem redundant. Here’s what I found: the word for “not” is actually spelled “me” in Greek! No joke. 
V- Verse’s implications for marriage: If I am focused on “me,” I am not loving my spouse with the sacrificial love He lavishes on us. The more I know (become aware, feel, perceive speak, understand) God’s love through His Word and Spirit, the purer I will love my husband. Jesus has not left us alone in this, but has given us His Spirit to help us love our spouse with His love. 
E- End in prayer: Lord, we praise you for being LOVE. Help us all to truly know and greater understand your love so our marriages won’t be about us, but you. In Jesus’ name, amen. 
Think about and share if you feel led an area in your marriage that needs to be less about you.