God’s Love is Enough 

It’s day 6 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study. 

L- log the verse: “In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”  ‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:10‬ ‭ESV‬‬

O- observations: God’s love is enough. Wednesday night I sat beside a missionary friend who just returned from 5 years living abroad as part of a mission to translate the bible into all languages. When we asked them how they were doing adjusting to life back in the states, this was their testimony: “God is enough.” His love is so overwhelming and encompassing that when things in your life and relationships are lacking, you realize his love is the only steady you couldn’t live without. 

V- Verse’s implications for marriage- even when things are off or bad in your marriage, God’s love is enough. When you are in valleys in your relationship, you will find Jesus there if you seek Him. His love sustains us in times where we don’t understand and have trouble loving our spouse sacrificially. Seeing all things in marriage with Jesus on the cross in the backdrop will remind us that we press on to bring God glory just as Jesus did, because He loved us. 

E- Sacrificing Savior, You are enough. Your love is what we desire. When things are good or great in our marriages, we give you glory. When times are tough, help us see you on the cross in the forefront of our minds, offering forgiveness and love for us and our spouse. In that one moment in history, we see love clearer than ever. Thank you, Jesus, 


A Love less about me

It’s day 4 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge at Refocused! Today: 

What in my marriage is about “Me?”

L- Log the verse: “Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭ESV‬‬
O- Observations: I used a concordance (https://www.blueletterbible.org/lang/lexicon/lexicon.cfm?Strongs=G26&t=KJV) to dig deeper into the meaning of the words in their original language (Greek). It’s amazing how you can ALWAYS go further into God’s Word, even when verses seem redundant. Here’s what I found: the word for “not” is actually spelled “me” in Greek! No joke. 
V- Verse’s implications for marriage: If I am focused on “me,” I am not loving my spouse with the sacrificial love He lavishes on us. The more I know (become aware, feel, perceive speak, understand) God’s love through His Word and Spirit, the purer I will love my husband. Jesus has not left us alone in this, but has given us His Spirit to help us love our spouse with His love. 
E- End in prayer: Lord, we praise you for being LOVE. Help us all to truly know and greater understand your love so our marriages won’t be about us, but you. In Jesus’ name, amen. 
Think about and share if you feel led an area in your marriage that needs to be less about you.

Loving your Husband with God’s Love 

It’s day 3 of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study! 

L- Log the verse- ““Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.”

‭‭1 John‬ ‭4:7 ESV 

O- observations – You are so LOVED by the Father! This love is meant be be deeply experienced by having a personal and growing relationship with God. Then, we are to share this wellspring of unconditional love- the kind of love we receive from God- unselfish and pure- produced by His Holy Spirit in us – with others- starting with and in a special covenant way with our spouse. 

V- Verse’s implications for marriage – Be committed to experiencing God’s love for you. Bask in it. Don’t seek this kind of love from your husband. There are places in your heart that need God’s touch before you can offer an unselfish love to your husband. Know you are securely loved by God. Ask Him to pour an overflow of His agape love you receive from Him into your spouse daily. This supernatural one is rich in mercy, slow to anger, and forgiving as far as the east is to the west. 
E- End in prayer – Love Himself, our source of Love, the face of love, we praise you. Thank you for loving us first, changing us with your love, and giving us your love freely to give to others. Please forgive us for the times we haven’t loved our spouses with your love. We’ve held onto selfish things. We’ve put up walls. Soften our hearts to love our own husbands with abandonment to self, covered and secure in your love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Question- How do you experience God’s love most fully? Corporate worship? Outside in nature? Alone with His Word? Prayer journaling? Comment below and commit doing that today so you have an overflow of His love to give your husband.

Victory over all hardships in marriage 

It’s day two of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study.

This whole chapter is so good! Especially v.31-39!

L – Log the verse – “No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:37‬ ‭ESV 

O – Observations – “all these things” in the verses leading up to this one include: trouble, calamity, persecution, hunger, coldness, endangerment, and being threatened with death. These were serious troubles believers were facing. Paul was able to pen these words through the Holy Spirit because though these were real fears, Christ had already given them victory by conquering sin and death on the cross. 
V- Verse pertains to marriage – Jesus’ victory on the cross brings us victory in marriage. We face real troubles and stressors in marriage. (If you are in physical danger in your marriage please get to a safe place and seek professional help, but continue to seek Jesus’ help!) All issues are won on the cross. Jesus loves you and your spouse no matter what’s going on in your relationship and he is FOR you and your marriage. Believe he is allowing any trial to bring good and to strengthen your relationship to Him and your relationship with your husband. Today pray for one area in your marriage that is lacking. Trust God to bring victory in His power and timing. 
E- end in prayer- Inseparable Savior, thank you for victory in my marriage – over any opposing force in the spiritual or physical realm. Keep pushing back the darkness and bring victory in all areas of my marriage. For your glory, Amen. 
Give God glory below by sharing one way He’s answered a prayer in your marriage, and given you and your husband victory over an issue. ✨

Love Him when He doesn’t deserve it 

It’s day one of the 40 Day Marriage Challenge here at Refocused Bible Study! I’m sharing my devotion pattern for this series below. I hope you’ll join us! 

L – log the verse- “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭5:8‬ ‭ESV‬‬
O- observations – God didn’t wait until I acted worthy of His love. He gave his most treasured person for me while I still went my own way. 
V – verse’s implications for marriage- Font wait until your spouse is worthy of love to demonstrate love for him. Give your very best love to him before you deem him deserving. You are following God’s unselfish pattern for covenant love when you decide to love him this way. 
E – end in prayer- Lord, I praise you for your unconditional love for me, and for all reading these words. Please help us love our spouses the way you’ve loved us; even if and when we don’t think they are worthy of it. Thank you for dying for us when we were still sinners. 

In Jesus’ name – Amen
Challenge of the day – ask God to search your heart and show you when you typically hold grudges against your husband (when he doesn’t help with chores, etc). Ask him to help you love him with His love at all times. 
What did the Lord speak to you through today’s devotion? Comment below! Pray for each other.

Changed by Love for Love  Marriage Challenge 

My patience was spent by the time the drink hit the floor and spilled everywhere. Cleaning, packing, and traveling stress had gotten the best of me and left herself several miles back. Some choice words spewed out my mouth at my husband next and left a mess harder to clean up than the liquid on the tiles below us. 

Have you been there friends? Just stressed about everyday life and all of the sudden you become shocked at the monstrous villain voice barking at the love of your life? I think if we are honest, we’ve all had moments that are less than lovely in our love life. Sometimes we’re the one at fault, sometimes our spouse, and many times both parties need to apologize and seek forgiveness. 

For all of us, the good news is that the love of Jesus can transform our marriages. Even if you’re feeling like he’s the one who needs to apologize and the words “I’m sorry” are yet to be uttered, we can offer the forgiveness we’ve found in Christ. 

When we know Christ as our Savior, the unconditional love we’ve found in Him will constantly make our marriages better and better. 

It’s easy to just hit autopilot in marriage and let daily demands take precedence over the most important earthly relationship – with our husband. Kids, jobs, sports, bills, and chores are just a few important things that make life love take a backseat (and not in that way!) 

So, starting tomorrow, September 25th, for the next 40 days here at RefocusedBibleStudy.com, we are launching the Changed by Love for Love Challenge. 

This is NOT a list of “to do’s” for a better marriage. This devotion challenge is an opportunity to learn or reflect again on Christ’s love for you so you can love your spouse with more of His kind of love. 

Here’s the devotion plan:

Set a timer for 10 minutes. Write out the verse, your observations, how it could apply to your marriage, and then pray, asking God to help you love your spouse in a more Christlike way based on the verse. If you aren’t a journaler, still use the pattern to interact with the verse. 

Our mission here at Refocused is to encourage and equip women to engage in God’s Word in a personal way, and to know Jesus more intimately. I pray over the next 40 days, that will happen, along with Christ transforming the love you and your spouse share to become more like the unconditional love He lavishes on us. 

Here’s the first 10 days below; snapshot the screen and you’ll be all set! 

I’ll be blogging a few times a week here. Or, join our ladies’ Facebook group for daily discussion. 

I’d love to hear from you and encourage you on this journey. Let’s let His love continue to transform us and our marriages. 


A Back to School Prayer

A prayer for the children in my home and yours starting a new year of school today. Fill in the blank with the child’s name.

“And may ____________ have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is.

May________________ experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully.

Then ________________ will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” Ephesians 3:18-19

The next verse is a prayer for your child’s teachers, homeschool mom or classroom teacher, along with all involved in educating your child. God is the one at work in whom we trust to accomplish the things he has planned for our children, this year, and every future year to come. We join together now and agree on this and trust the One who is ABLE!

“Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Glory to him in the church and in Christ Jesus through all generations forever and ever! Amen”  Ephesians 3:20

We are entering into our fifth year of homeschooling. This former public school teacher has tried all sorts of methods and ways of teaching her kids at home. But this morning, God was so good to remind me of the above prayer, that they would grow in the ability to understand God’s love for them, and therefore be made complete.

I don’t want their heads be full and the heart being empty. Do you feel me, mama? I don’t want them to rush through their work, get the boxes checked off and finish this school year without experiencing the LOVE of Jesus that has the power to give them a FULL LIFE, on this side of eternity and the next.

So I’m asking Him to do what verse twenty states and do infinitely more than we might ask or think in our kids this school year. I’m asking it for you kids too.

Will you join me?