Ok sister friend, I’m going to pass some wisdom on to you. I do it with the upmost love & concern for your sanity, your marriage, and your family. If your house is in a perpetual mess and you can’t ever get around to cleaning, it may be because
you are too BUSY.
Yes, I said the “B” word. I used to be the queen of busy. Always on the go, doing good, beneficial, fun things for my kids and myself. But last December, I finally decided I couldn’t have it ALL.
Through a lot of prayer and studying God’s word, Jesus confirmed:
There are not enough hours in each week to run around to all these activities AND make my home the haven I want it to be.
He especially used this passage to gently convict and encourage me to cut BUSY out of my life:
“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” Titus 2:5 NIV
How fitting is it that the NIV translation reads to be “BUSY at home.” It’s the only place I used to not be busy at, because I was so busy running around everywhere else. To dig deeper, let’s check the concordance to see what the author, Paul, was really trying to convey to this group of believers.
Strong’s definition of the original Greek word used by Paul for “to be busy at home” is: a stayer at home, i.e. domestically inclined (a “good housekeeper”):—keeper at home.
Ouch. All spelled out for us, now in plain English; a stayer at home. Now, I want to be clear, I do not not think this means women should not work. If working outside the home is what the Lord has planned for you, you are contributing to your home by doing so. I think it is safe to say what Paul was trying to get across here is for women to make their homes one of their top priorities.
The world has twisted this high calling and made it seem more like a restrictive burden.
The enemy has tried to take beauty out of homemaking and leave an ugly, quick to-do list where a masterpiece was supposed to hang.
Instead of focusing on the never-ending ugly to do list, I started focusing on the beautiful masterpiece I knew God meant for me me to create at home. My thoughts shifted from all that HAD to get done to all the goodness waiting to be cultivated. I decided it was time to carve out time for my home first, and see if there was room left for the rest later.
Here are the activities I ended up cutting out:
~Spontaneous weekly playdates became more like monthly playdates. (Except for my sister who keeps her weekly spot 🙂
~My Wednesday morning zumba/bible study at the YMCA had to stop. I miss it but I am so happy with the peace being at home has created!
~Trips to Target had to be cut back to about once a month. (I do live 3o minutes from the nearest Target, keep in mind).
Do I miss these fun social activities? Yes, at times, but the peace in my home has far out-weighed the benefits these outings used to bring.
When I look back on my life, I want the most abundant, beautiful fruit to be the fruit that grew at home. It takes time to till, sow good seed, pull weeds, fertilize, and prune. But in the end, I know I will look back and see it was worth all the eternal beauty that will be harvested.
Spring cleaning challenge: Look at your schedule for the month of April. Consider what you could take off for the sake of working on a masterpiece–your home. I will be here to cheer you on, leading you to the feet of Jesus at the turn of every corner in your house.
I had my sister join in on the fun and make this funny video for us. Dead bugs on your windows? Toy boxes that won’t close all the way? Dust on your ceiling fan? Join the club ladies. Don’t keep throwing your hands up in defeat. Just stay home and join us in spring cleaning. PLUS- Pray over your entire family and submerse yourself in God’s cleansing word. It’s going to be a very refreshing journey!!!
I have still not “arrived” in keeping house! That is why I am dedicating the month of April to SPRING CLEANING! I hope you will consider joining us here at Refocused Bible Study. The link to the bible study is below. I start blogging through it Monday April 4th!